Without further ado, the first story in the Not Another BAD DATE series.
After coming out of a very long-term relationship, like 7 years long, I didn't know where to start in the dating world again. After a few friend suggestions and not wanting to be asked out in a bar, I joined the online dating world. It started out as great experience for me. I was getting back out there and met a few nice guys. I wasn't ready to settle down yet so I was happy dating around. I started talking to this guy who appeared nice. I had this feeling that we weren't going to hit it off well once we met but I gave him the benefit of the doubt and agreed to meet him.
We continued talking (he texted me constantly -- too much! definitely a warning sign!) and at that point we had agreed to meet but never made definite plans. After a few days of still talking with no scheduled date, he texts me while I'm shopping with my friend. It was 11:30 and he asks me to meet him for lunch at 1 (which hello?! you should plan your first meeting instead of just randomly asking with no notice). I told him that I was out with my friend and he said that I could bring her and it would help me in making our first meeting more comfortable. My friend was all about it, of course! She wanted to go! I agreed and told him that we would meet him for lunch. We drove to meet him at The Cheesecake Factory and he called me while I was on the way to confirm I was still meeting him (umm .. I had literally just agreed and he needed to confirm??).
We arrive and meet outside. He looks like his picture, which sometimes you can never be too sure with people from online so that was a good thing! We walk inside and he tells me that I look nice and that I'm very pretty. We sit down and order and start talking. It really did help that my friend was there because the conversation flowed a lot better. Throughout the conversation, he would constantly tell me how pretty I am. (Like too much, I heard you the first few times, thank you. He was definitely trying too hard.) But ironically enough, as often as he told me how pretty I was, he didn't like certain things about my appearance. He told me three times that although I had nice hair, he didn't understand why I colored it and why I would want to have roots. He said that I should grow it out and leave it all one color. (Nice, right? First meeting and he's already telling me what he'd like me to change.)
The food comes and so does the inappropriate conversation. As soon as we start eating, he says to my friend, "You're a teacher too right?". She says, "Yes, I teach Spanish in a middle school." He says, "Oh, middle school. Have you ever had a girl get her period and stand up with blood on her chair?" (Sorry that's not the most pleasant sentence, but seriously that's exactly what he said!) And we're eating and how is that appropriate?! She says, "NO" and we look to change to a more appropriate topic but obviously he had different intentions. He then asks me, "Well, have any of your second graders peed in their pants and have to go to the nurse for a new pair of clothes." I say, "NO" and immediately shift the subject completely after saying I didn't feel that was appropriate conversation.
We finish eating and my friend and I alternate going to the bathroom a bunch of times just to get away from the table. While I was in the bathroom, he had asked my friend if she thought I'd go out with him for dinner and a movie that same night and she had told him she thought it would be better to ask me and maybe we could go another night. When I returned to the table, he told me that he had asked my friend if I'd go out with him later tonight. He then proceeded to ask my out. I said that we could go out a different night. ( I wasn't going to tell him right then and there, who knows what he would have said or done?! HAHA) He then told me about 5 times how much he was looking forward to seeing me again and what a pretty girl I am. (Yes, again! I wanted so badly to say something about him disliking my roots but I didn't.)
We wrap up lunch and hope that the waiter will bring our check soon. (BTW, the waiter was so cute, I wanted to go out with him instead! HAHA) The waiter comes to our table and he decides to order cheesecake. He insists we order cheesecake too and since well the date was horrible enough ... we decided that we would definitely indulge and share a piece of cheesecake. We eat our cheesecake and he asks again if I'll go out with him again later that night. I tell him again we'll go out another night. The check comes and my friend and I offer to pay for our lunches and he tells us that he wouldn't take our money and that he'd be happy to pay for lunch. We ask him if he's sure and he insists. He takes out his wallet and begins to pay. He fans his money out in the air in front of him to make us aware of how much money he has and how much he is paying for lunch. (NO JOKE!) He counts the money twice before he finally put it in the guest check folder. We get ready to leave and walk outside. He tries to kiss me goodbye on the cheek but instead I leaned in to give him a hug and thanked him for lunch. We all said goodbye and my friend and I walked to my car. We got in and immediately started laughing! We start driving home when he texts me and tells me what a great time he had and how he can't wait to see me again. I waited to respond and thanked him again for lunch. He said he would text me the next day and I didn't respond after that. The following day before he had the chance to text me I texted him to tell him that I thought he was a nice guy but I didn't think it was going to work out and thanked him again for lunch. He responded that he was disappointed and I left it at that.
I remained on the online dating website for two more months until my subscription ended. In that two month period, he e-mailed me 4 times. He would send me quotes about second chances and asked if I could give him a second chance to which I never responded.
Don't y'all think he was too much? Would you have went on a second date with him? Or given him a second chance?
If anyone else has a dating story that they would like to share, e-mail me at email@example.com for more details. I'd love to hear from you :)